My grandmothers were as different as night and day.

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Night
One grandmother was usually unhappy and complaining.  It seemed nothing anyone did was ever good enough.  She was angry.  She held grudges.  She felt life cheated her…
She was always wishing for a bigger expensive home or car.  She always blamed someone else because she did not have what she “deserved.”  Everyone else’s grass was always greener…
Every conversation that I remember between her and my grandfather was an argument filled with anger.

Her persistent pattern of thinking was negative filled with anger, blaming others, jealousy and envy.  It seemed like her emotions were shades of gray and black.  She seemed to have lost her ability to enjoy life.

In my mind the biggest danger of negative thinking is its toxicity.  It poisons even the good times.

If my one grandmother was role model for being unhappy then my other grandmother was a role model for being content…

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Day
My other grandmother was almost always cheerful.  She was usually able to let bygones be bygones.  Unless, you lied or cheated her.  Then she usually just tried to avoid having anything to do with you.  Like the time the local shop owner took too many sugar coupons during the war…
She claimed she learned that worry was useless waste of energy; the time my grandfather broke his arm and still had to drive a team of horses home.  It didn’t get him home quicker.  It didn’t mend his arm…
She was grateful for what she had.  Strangely the grass was just as green or greener on her side of the fence.
She held anyone over 18, responsible for their personality and actions.  If something needed changing, they were capable and responsible for getting it done.
She practiced positive thinking.  Not the new kind where you can’t have a negative thought but a realistic kind.  She was fully human with the full spectrum of emotions.  She knew how to stand up for herself…
It showed.  She seemed at peace and her life was good.  She was not materially successful.  She did not have a fancy house or fast car.   She just enjoyed living.

In my mind this is the biggest benefits of a positive thinking habit.  It’s not the material wealth it can attract.

You can learn more about getting rid of your negative thinking habit and enjoying life again read “Why Bother to Change Your Thinking?”